5.19.2008

Sound Advice (If HE is Your Man)



18 Things A Grown Man Should Never Have
By Steve Calechman, Men's Health


1. A black eye. Unless the rim hits your face mid-dunk, your peepers should remain unblemished. You're smart enough to talk your way out of any fight you're going to lose.

2. A witty e-mail signature. Quotes and song lyrics should be heard during toasts and karaoke performances, respectively. Don't let your electronic correspondence become the digital version of a motivational poster.

3. An empty refrigerator. Your larder should be amply stocked, your pantry provisioned. Always aim to be ready to create an on-the-fly, three-course dinner for her...along with breakfast in bed.

4. PlayStation thumb. When they're relaxing, grown men can behave like children. But if you devolve long enough to cause calluses or button-shaped bruises, you're assuredly missing out on life.

5. A key chain with a bottle opener. This bauble is both a gauche reminder of your college days and proof that you don't know how to apply leverage using available, impromptu bottle openers: a lighter, the back end of a fork.

6. A lucky shirt. Every shirt is lucky when worn by a man who knows that the harder he works the luckier he'll be.

7. An unstamped passport.

8. Olympic dreams. Exceptions: curling and archery.

9. Less than $20 in his wallet. Fiduciary nudity is negligence. A real man should always carry a business card and enough dough to pick up coffee, bagels, and the Sunday paper without whipping out the plastic.

10. A name for his penis. Even if it's a really clever name.

11. Any beer that costs less than $20 a case. And no exception for the grand-slam 30-pack that crosses that price threshold.

12. The need to quote The Big Lebowski/ Caddyshack/Superbad. Reciting someone else's lines reminds people that you haven't the wit to write your own.

13. A futon. Sure, beds are for sleeping. But such a meager, slouchy spread has never, in the history of sex, inspired a woman to say, "Take me on your futon."

14. Code words for ugly women. Actually, code words for anything.

15. A Nerf hoop in his living room. Keep the adolescent accoutrements where they belong: in the rec room or above the wastebasket in someone else's office.

16. A secret handshake.

17. Drinking glasses with logos. Especially those kitschy McDonald's Hamburglar ones.

18. A recent story with the phrase "So I said to the cop…"


The journey toward true love begins within...

5.08.2008

Enemy Mine


There is a definite difference between being gorgeous and being a prisoner of beauty. The first is an effect of the physical, while the second is a reactive state of mind--primarily experienced by those who interact with a so-called beautiful woman. This typically happens when a woman is starred at for an excessive amount of time, her beauty going noticed by a man, while her essence is totally ignored and rarely approached. The experience is similar to what author Ralph Ellison wrote about in his ground-breaking book, The Invisible Man, but for the beautiful woman the repercussions can be far greater. In short, she experiences what is commonly referred to as "The Human Picture Effect". This not only gives her a beauty complex, increases anxiety levels when noticing men looking and heightens her awareness of aesthetics, but it also; for some, plants seeds of doubt concerning intellect since it is rarely the focal point and always competing with her beauty.

True, there is more to a woman than meets the eye and for the beautiful woman this fact can NEVER go unstated.

In addition, there is nothing worse than holding a conversation with someone who is so bound by the exterior they are rendered unable to hear, as Chris Rock said, "the words coming out of my mouth!"

If you are this person, here are a few suggestion to aid in your escape:

1) When communicating, be certain to interject with sound points concerning the topic of discussion

2) Focus less on the superficial, more on your inner state of being

3) Surround yourself with women of varied beauty levels, not just women who are as beautiful as yourself

4) Do not give men the option of staring, approach and engage them in conversation in effort to put yourself on the offensive, not the defensive

and

5) Utilize your beauty to create opportunities for others, especially those who would have never thought you noticed they existed.
The journey toward true love begins within...

Absolutes (First 10)




If a woman can relate to the following, it is time for an absolute reconsideration:
1) He knows exactly how many minutes it takes a woman to get from her job to the house.
2) The only friend a woman has is the man she loves.
3) Discussing relationship concerns always ends with the woman being so-called ungrateful for all he has "done".
4) Make-up love making is the platinum standard.
5) Wake up, cook breakfast, get the children ready, drop the children off, work, cook dinner, reluctantly make love are a woman's normal sequence of events.
6) "I know I forgot, but here it is," is the first sentence a woman hears before receiving yet another not well thought out gift.
7) His male friends all know his woman, but none of his female friends know her.
8) He knows the codes to unlock his woman's cell phone, passwords to her voice mail, e-mail key words and ATM pin, yet she doesn't have a key to his place.
9) The woman mistakes verbal abuse for honest opinion, but only when the words are coming from him.
10) The woman excuses the first time he hits her because he had a stressful day and just got caught up in the moment.
The journey toward true love begins within...

5.06.2008

Actual Factual (Entry #1)



















Love by the Numbers

By Laura Schaefer

The statistics of romance tell a fascinating story about who is dating whom, how many of us are still single, and what to expect when love blossoms. From who pays for what to the age at which we march down the aisle, it can all be neatly summed up by numbers, some of which will definitely surprise you. Just think about it this way: Would you rather be the average or on the edges when it comes to love? See what you think as you read these facts and figures.
To call or not to call?
There is only a 1 in 8 chance that a first date will call you for a second date after 24 hours, revealed a survey by matchmakers It’s Just Lunch. But say you do like the person, then what? Here’s what a 2006 survey by Match.com revealed: On the ladies’ side, 49 percent of women never call or they expect the man to call first; 20 percent of women call two days later, while 15 percent call the next day. Of the guys, 45 percent call the next day, 32 percent call two days later, and 14 percent call three days later.
Date-night data
According to 41 percent of singles, Wednesday is the best day for a first date, and 46 percent of people surveyed by It’s Just Lunch say Italian is the cuisine of choice for first-date dinners.
Working on love?
Office romances are quite a gamble, it seems, according to data from the American Management Association of New York: You could end up married—or losing your footing work-wise. 44 percent of workplace romances lead to marriage, while 43 percent of women and 25 percent of men who had an office affair that ended badly reported their work suffered as a result.
From wink to real world
It takes an average of four weeks before Internet daters will arrange to meet off-line, says a 2005 study by Love.com... so don’t be put off if bantering emails don’t lead to a date right away.
Putting a price tag on romance
51 percent of American men spend over $100 monthly on dates, and 29 percent spend over $150, according to an It’s Just Lunch survey. What’s more, 68 percent of men treat on the first date. Now, nearly 2/3 of U.S. women spend less than $50 a month on dating, but the female of the species likely empties her pockets for Cupid in a different way, buying cosmetics and new clothes.
I’ll drink to that…in moderation
86 percent of American men and 91 percent of women agree that two alcoholic drinks is the maximum on a first date, say the folks who took an It’s Just Lunch poll, and one in five would refrain from drinking.
Who’s doing the dumping
So who is bringing down the ax when people part ways? 29 percent of men polled by eNation, a service of Market Facts, say that they were the one who called it quits, while 51 percent of women say they initiated their most recent split.
How you mend a broken heart…
36 percent of adults say they get over an ex by dating someone new, according to the same eNation survey. 22 percent drown their sorrows in alcohol. 15 percent say they go shopping—and a jet-setting 10 percent go on a vacation.
Single solidarity
As of 2004, Census Bureau reports revealed that there were 89 million single Americans who were divorced, widowed, or had always been single. That’s more than 40 percent of the 18-and-older population. In fact, on the average, Americans now spend more years of their adult lives single than married. This is due to the fact that many people are delaying the age at which they marry — most recently measured at a median of 25.8 for women and 27.4 for men; the highest on record — and many marriages don’t last forever… So being single hardly makes you odd man (or woman) out anymore!
Laura Schaefer is the author of Man with Farm Seeks Woman with Tractor: The Best and Worst Personal Ads of All Time.
The journey toward true love begins within...

5.05.2008

Self-Evaluation





















In order for woman to capture the love they desire they must first ask, "is the man I'm with all I need in a man?" If the answer to the question is "no", the next question asked should be, "why?" Successful relationships are filled with people who focus on solutions rather than problems. Women who are involved in relationships where they are not getting the love they desire have a problem, a quite serious problem.

The solution begins with exploring the expectations, unless they are already concrete. If your man is not as intelligent as you prefer, there is nothing you can do to solve the problem, unless you attempt to "make" him smarter. Having to prep someone for a conversation is irritating, extremely, which is why if women are to find what they are seeking they need to focus on the real reasons they stay with men who are unfulfilling.


If you have love, but no security,

if you have security, but no nuturing,

if you have nuturing, but no finances,

if you have no finances, but no support,

if you have no support, but no compatibility,

why are you staying in the relationship?


There is no shame in being alone, it is not the same is being lonely--what is worse is feeling alone while being lonely in a relationship.

How do women navigate?

The journey toward true love begins within...

The Myth (Initial Entry)

If you believe the following, this blog service is not for you:

"Basic Principles - no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!" Now, she might say "This is a really bad time for me," or something like "I just need some space," or my personal favorite "I'm really into my career right now."

You believe that?

Neither does she.

You know why? 'Cause she's lying to you, that's why. You understand me? Lying! It's not a bad time for her. She doesn't need any space. And she may be into her career, but what she's really saying is "Uh, get away from me now," or possibly "Try harder, stupid," but which one is it?

60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth. Of course she's going to lie to you! She's a nice person! She doesn't want to hurt your feelings! What else she going to say? She doesn't even know you... yet.

Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a beautiful woman doesn't know what she wants until she sees it," Alex Hitchens from the movie HITCH.

The truth is most women do know exactly what they want, the problem is finding it ALL in one man, namely, the one they are currently married to, seriously dating or casually seeing. If I had a dollar for every time I heard a woman say, "if I could put his brain into his head I would live happily ever after," I'd be rich. The primary problem is women have bought into the belief in finding a man with the so-called TOTAL PACKAGE, e. g. smarts, good looks, great sex, sensitive heart, well groomed, culturally exposed, God fearing and well mannered. The reality is there are men who possess these traits, but never all of them at the same time. Unfortunately, those women who find men with the majority of the list are either married, gay, down-low or old enough to be their father's, father.

The main point of this blog is to show, teach and develop women through concise interactions with men who offer "confidant status" without the bother of wanting to pursue sex. These interactions will provide woman a human outlet for sharing their secrets, being themselves, exploing new social avenues and finding a way to separate what they need in a relationship from what they want. Every woman should have a man with all the items listed above, for those of you who unfortunate, this blog offers a supplement.

If you believe your love, life is incomplete--void of the total masculine experience--allow yourself to contemplate having a confidant, not a friend with benefits.

The journey toward true love begins within...