Interpreting the love of a man is difficult, it is painfully complex, but the reward of gaining slight understanding is priceless. Unfortunately, concerning this topic, there is more gray than black and white. Ideally, men would either be super-sensitive, over-compensating, smothering love-sick puppy dogs filled passive-aggressive tendencies or controlling, insensitive, unable to verbalize emotion and unwilling to accept a woman in her present form; liberated. The fact is, most men exist within both spheres of influence, being fleetingly emotional/romantic yet, stern and protecting. The key is “knowing” or learning how he loves, without comparing it to how a woman wants to be loved; contrasting comes later.
Based on numerous experiences, there are merely three steps to measuring a man’s love and they are as follows:
First, determining his perception of love, its worth and direct importance in his life. Example: If the man you love perceives acts of romance, minus the sex, as showing a sign of weakness instead of an offering of kindliness, more than likely, he may be slightly distant during your “relations” and interactions. He may associate providing as the “best” and most worthy way to show a woman love, which means he’ll take care of issues like washing your car, cooking the meals, washing your hair, painting your nails or even helping you with workouts. Ask him to describe, in detail, his worst break up, how it impacted him emotionally and the significance of its ripple effect; this will provide insight concerning the importance of love, as he sees it.
Second, determine his length of love, meaning, does he love in short spurts or in one impassioned climax. Example: He may see picking up your dry cleaning, purchasing a new pair of heels or arranging a professional massage as “small” acts of love or he may express himself by planning the annual 14 day vacation for two, which in his mind, precludes him from having to show “small” acts. If you know the difference, it should be easier to appreciate his display and to associate it with him attempting to give what he understands to be an act of love.
Third, determine his capacity to love, depth versus shallow; explore the reasons why and focus on finding how to unlock it. Example: Role-play!!! Plan a Psyche on the couch evening, where, should you chose to, reward him for being frank. Turn the situation into a game; allow for a win-win for each of you. Ask him questions like, “how do you see the difference between being in love and loving?” Start simple, progressively increase the degree of difficulty. “how do you create love, nurture it and grow it toward a healthy and positive point of fruition?”
If you can garner an understanding of his interpretation of love, then you’ll be empowered to better measure his love.
Based on numerous experiences, there are merely three steps to measuring a man’s love and they are as follows:
First, determining his perception of love, its worth and direct importance in his life. Example: If the man you love perceives acts of romance, minus the sex, as showing a sign of weakness instead of an offering of kindliness, more than likely, he may be slightly distant during your “relations” and interactions. He may associate providing as the “best” and most worthy way to show a woman love, which means he’ll take care of issues like washing your car, cooking the meals, washing your hair, painting your nails or even helping you with workouts. Ask him to describe, in detail, his worst break up, how it impacted him emotionally and the significance of its ripple effect; this will provide insight concerning the importance of love, as he sees it.
Second, determine his length of love, meaning, does he love in short spurts or in one impassioned climax. Example: He may see picking up your dry cleaning, purchasing a new pair of heels or arranging a professional massage as “small” acts of love or he may express himself by planning the annual 14 day vacation for two, which in his mind, precludes him from having to show “small” acts. If you know the difference, it should be easier to appreciate his display and to associate it with him attempting to give what he understands to be an act of love.
Third, determine his capacity to love, depth versus shallow; explore the reasons why and focus on finding how to unlock it. Example: Role-play!!! Plan a Psyche on the couch evening, where, should you chose to, reward him for being frank. Turn the situation into a game; allow for a win-win for each of you. Ask him questions like, “how do you see the difference between being in love and loving?” Start simple, progressively increase the degree of difficulty. “how do you create love, nurture it and grow it toward a healthy and positive point of fruition?”
If you can garner an understanding of his interpretation of love, then you’ll be empowered to better measure his love.
The journey toward true love begins within...
4 comments:
"washing your hair"?
This is a interesting post. I'm still trying to decide if I agree with you take on this topic. I honestly think I will have to read it again before I can make a determination. Does that make me slow? DON'T ANSWER THAT!
Lmao at one man , he is too silly I swear! Anywho I agree with u on that! My ex measured his love with doing for me! I could never understand why he couldn't show a sister some love & compassion! But now I understand through this post!
Thanks for stopping by my blog! I'll be adding u to my blog roll
I'm in love with National security and let me tell you, she's high maintenance
Hmmm...interesting point of view. Thanks for stopping by. I will be peeking my head in here a few times.
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