5.08.2008

Enemy Mine


There is a definite difference between being gorgeous and being a prisoner of beauty. The first is an effect of the physical, while the second is a reactive state of mind--primarily experienced by those who interact with a so-called beautiful woman. This typically happens when a woman is starred at for an excessive amount of time, her beauty going noticed by a man, while her essence is totally ignored and rarely approached. The experience is similar to what author Ralph Ellison wrote about in his ground-breaking book, The Invisible Man, but for the beautiful woman the repercussions can be far greater. In short, she experiences what is commonly referred to as "The Human Picture Effect". This not only gives her a beauty complex, increases anxiety levels when noticing men looking and heightens her awareness of aesthetics, but it also; for some, plants seeds of doubt concerning intellect since it is rarely the focal point and always competing with her beauty.

True, there is more to a woman than meets the eye and for the beautiful woman this fact can NEVER go unstated.

In addition, there is nothing worse than holding a conversation with someone who is so bound by the exterior they are rendered unable to hear, as Chris Rock said, "the words coming out of my mouth!"

If you are this person, here are a few suggestion to aid in your escape:

1) When communicating, be certain to interject with sound points concerning the topic of discussion

2) Focus less on the superficial, more on your inner state of being

3) Surround yourself with women of varied beauty levels, not just women who are as beautiful as yourself

4) Do not give men the option of staring, approach and engage them in conversation in effort to put yourself on the offensive, not the defensive

and

5) Utilize your beauty to create opportunities for others, especially those who would have never thought you noticed they existed.
The journey toward true love begins within...

4 comments:

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Queen of My Castle said...

I sooooo loved this post. I often refer to it as the Plight of the Pretty. It's really frustrating when others can't look past your "beauty" missing out on the true beauty of who you are.

Mizrepresent said...

I guess i'm not that kind of beautiful, and i'm okay with that because i think the beauty in me resides inside. It is what i want to convey. Great post! Thanks for visiting my site, i will be back.

PCD (Pretty Circle Drawer) said...

these are good pointers! if i were single, i'd certainly work these over! @ miz r...what are you talking about "not that kind of beautiful"? whatevs...